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I was fascinated to read about an application that used to be available on the Google apps website, called “Boyfriend Tracker”. This application, which obviously required you to get access to your partner’s phone, allowed you to load an application onto their phone which not only monitored their movements, but sent you copies of all their text messages as well as allows you to dial in and listen to phone calls.
Google removed the application citing privacy concerns but it was apparently extremely popular in Brazil. I think those types of applications are a double-edged sword, because for every person who really does want to know the truth, there are those who would claim they want to know the truth but who don’t really want to know it. Those who you know must know that their partner is up to something, with all those late night “boys only” drinking nights with the “boys”. Another common story one hears is the constant claim of going away for bachelor nights or stag weekends where people continually have old distant friends whose parties they simply have to attend because they are getting married now.
Posted by Michael de Broglio on Tuesday 03-Sep-13
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Sinead said:
on Tuesday 10-Sep-13 11:37 AM
Oh my gosh this is ridiculous... Beyond psychotic actually... Lol. People actually used that app??
thembi said:
on Friday 06-Sep-13 10:31 AM
Where they in love they must be trust and if you love your partner and suspect something is wrong its better you ask rather than follow her/him around
Yolandi P said:
on Friday 06-Sep-13 07:48 AM
Never mind the trust issues, that someone would actually think of designing an app like this is creepy. It takes stalking to a new level. Sick!
Sarah said:
on Wednesday 04-Sep-13 08:26 AM
The ladies said it all, if there is no trust , there is no relationship.
marilie said:
on Wednesday 04-Sep-13 07:42 AM
I AGREE if you trust your patner you should not have trust issues - because then there is something wrong with your relationship and the problem is you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sorea said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 03:43 PM
I think that if you think you need software like this you should not be with the person you are with. There is obviously a monumental issue to inspire such actions.
Jessica said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 01:59 PM
Well I think I have heard a few people that have tried this thing, but seriously why be with someone that you don't trust, all the extra added stress that one doesn't need. Shame I feel bad for people that have to go to these lengths to feel secure in their relationships.
Angelique said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 12:57 PM
This is absolutely hilarious! This is the first time i'm hearing about this. I am quite pleasantly suprised that most ladies are against it. And here everyone thought woman were crazy! I am against it - its an invasion of privacy and agree that you shouldnt be in a relationship if there is no trust. At the end of the day, if one wants to cheat you will regardless! I wouldn't want to drive myself crazy and turning small things into major issues unless he is cheating. I'd rather not even go through his phone unless I really suspected something, no matter how tempting. If you do it once, you will always be paranoid and do it again! If you have an app like this - I say that YOU are the one with a guilty conscience and you are the one fooling around! You could have it on your phone to make sure your husband isn't following you on your 'weekend away' or business trip to make sure the coast is clear.... not just for those trying to catch the cheat!
Kaylee said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 12:39 PM
I had the unfortunate experience of dating a guy who would constantly read my messages on my phone! Hence the reason he is my ex, I dont see the point of dating someone you dont trust. I am so against this app!
Sheena said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 11:51 AM
Agreed with everyone. If you do not trust your partner you should not be in a relasionship with that person.
Ashleigh said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 11:27 AM
All the comments from the Ladies explains it all. This is ridiculous and your relationship should seriously be reconsidered if you even think of using an app like this.
Tersia said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 10:06 AM
Not a good thing at all. You will only hurt yourself more in the end if you do find something. But too much trust is also not always a good thing.
Benita said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 09:24 AM
I think this app is a total violation of ones privacy. If you go onto your partners phone, you go on it to find something and you'll make something out of any harmful thing for example a simple hello to a person will be taken up in the wrong way by you as you expect to find something
Brenda said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 09:10 AM
I believe in having your "space" in a relationship, Let your partner go on a "boys" or "girls" night out. Obviously not every weekend, but space in a relationship is very important as being in each other's company 24/7 can make a person want to explore other avenues. As for wanting to track your partner to find out his/her whereabouts at all times, not cool!! Insecurity in a relationship can also be the downfall of a relationship.
Helen said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 09:08 AM
Very interesting application, but I always believe that the strong relationship base on the trust. Ladies are absolutely right that if the trust does not exist then what is the use of this relationship, I think this application will install to monitor my children only, to see what friends they have and if they are not in trouble.
salomie said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 09:03 AM
If you cant trust each other then you should not be together. It takes to much time and effort to keep checking on your partner, if people want to cheat they will find a way no matter what you do to keep taps
Thabitha said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 09:03 AM
Gosh after doing all this what is going to happen to that relationship because from the start it shows that the is no trust
Juliet said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 08:51 AM
I really think this is something men would use more than women. And I think that if you are in a relationship you should be able to get a copy of each other's text messages in any event. Unless there is something to hide. But I think if your partner is going away without you s/he is probably meeting someone else.
brumilde said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 08:45 AM
Why am I only hearing about this now. !!! lol. Must have been very popular with the ladies. but I think it some men also used it.
Henrietta said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 08:44 AM
I agree if you can trust your partner why are you with them? What is a relationship without it? You really need to start looking at yourself when you do have those insecurities and dont take it out on your partner. 60% of time when you accuse your partner of cheating you are behind that door.
Liesl said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 08:44 AM
In a similar concept a friend of mine caught his wife cheating by using the tracker system. His then wife who was supposedly on a business trip was booked into a hotel with her boss as Mr & Mrs and certainly not where she said she is going to be on business, perhaps she meant to say "monkey business".
Bianca said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 08:41 AM
I personally feel that if you are considering even downloading this app, you should not be with your partner at all. There is without a doubt, major trust issues in your relationship. On the app side, there is something similar called "Find my Iphone" which I know people use to check up on where their partner is - extremely disturbing if you ask me.
iola said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 08:38 AM
I would honestly never do that, thats just psyco plus if you want to know what your partner is doing all you should do is ask, and if you do that you have major insecurities
Dune said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 08:38 AM
I think its absolutely ridiculous, if you can't trust someone then why are you together. But also if you can't trust yourself then you can't trust others. Everyone needs privacy even when you are in a relationship. If you don't let your partner go out with his friends etc then he/she will eventually start doing it in secrecy which leads to dishonesty and eventually the relationship will fall apart because there is no trust and no honesty. And those are the most important things to have in a successful relationship.
Alexis said:
on Tuesday 03-Sep-13 08:36 AM
OMW - seriously. TRUST ISSUES - if you have so little trust in your partner then why are you still with them - my word - i have never heard of something so insane in my life - break up with the dude or look at yourself and maybe realise there is something seriously wrong with you - WOW
Johannesburg based attorney specializing in personal injury matters including Road Accident Fund claims and medical negligence matters. My interests include golf, reading and the internet and the way it is constantly developing. I have a passion for life and a desire for less stress!
